Character Study: Shraddha!

Words cannot describe my admiration of the featured lady, even though she’s a fictional character 😛 She is the epitome of high-value feminine perfection. I’m all for having role models and trying to incorporate what they do right in my own behavior and personality. To me it’s so inspiring when I see a woman or a girl with the traits that I’m trying to cultivate, whether fictional or otherwise  So today, I would like to write about Shraddha Singh, the now-dead protagonist of an Indian serial called Piya Rangrezz.

The first thing anyone noticed about her was her calmness. She was completely serene, poised and unruffled, she never hurried anywhere, she never shouted or screamed, she was always cool, calm and collected. I feel this is a very important trait of a lady. Not to never do any of the above, but to minimize it as much as possible. A feminine graceful woman is a poised woman, who manages her time well and watches over her mind so it’s not racing at 100 mph. A feminine graceful woman embodies peace. She’s above complaining, nagging and gossiping. She’s gold and has higher standards for herself than that.

Shraddha was ridiculously moral. She had a set of principles that she never, EVER compromised on. This is another hallmark of a high value woman. A high value woman has her values and morals that she never violates simply to make life easier to make herself or her loved ones more comfortable. Along with this was Shraddha’s loyalty. In situations that would have caused other marriages to disintegrate within seconds, she believed in her husband, supported him and trusted him because that is what a good wife does! A good wife isn’t just a good wife when things are hard, a good wife gives, of her love and loyalty, even when it’s most difficult. Any woman/wife can be supportive and loving when things are rosy, it’s only the very best of women who choose to care and understand even when it’s easier to just walk away.  And speaking of good wifehood, Shraddha was domesticity goals 😛 She was very neat, organized and cooked well.

Not to say that she was dumb. She was an educated woman, she had studied up to university level (engineering, btw), and trust me when she DID open her mouth, it was always something smart that left us like :O Her word worth was super high 😉 I’ve always admired quiet people, who don’t have their mouths running constantly, saying stuff simply to keep the conversation going. It’s much more admirable when someone is a bit reserved and mysterious and when they do say something, BAM 😛

In short, Shraddha’s high-value femininity was off the charts ❤

I hope you liked this post! Who are your role models? Is there a person that you particularly admire? Why? Leave a comment below!

 

 

 

 

Keys To Dignity

Good afternoon amazing creatures 🙂 Today, I would like to write about dignity, and how we as young ladies (and gentlemen) can gain, maintain or increase this very important part of our inner sexiness.

dignity (noun): The state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect.

A dignified person respects themselves and other people. A dignified person is serene, poised, and just a plain badass. Dignified person are noticed almost instantly wherever they go, because it is such a rare quality nowadays, especially among us young ‘uns. Dignified people are more likely to be chosen for high-profile, high-status stuff, whether that be a job, a certain school, marriage to a high-value man *cough*First Lady* or representative of a business or cause. Warning! If you want to be asked out by every girl/guy on the block, or be invited to trendy parties or to hang out and smoke or go clubbing, ignore this article completely!

Dignified people do not always attract a flock of followers or admirers in today’s society. By cultivating dignity, you will repel immature, lazy, low-value men (the majority) in a relationship context, for example. More attention will go to the girls who flaunt their bodies for all to see and who are up for ‘a good time’. But you will attract a high-value, loyal, strong, principled man who is ready for a serious relationship.  Or even a few, depending on their availability in your city 😛 Think of it as attracting the John F. Kennedy’s of your area as opposed to the Justin Bieber’s. Are you ready to dump the Kardashian attitude and upgrade?

Leave something to the imagination. Wearing too open or tight clothing, wearing a whole Revlon counter of makeup, etc may pass you off as sexy and hot, but it does not present you as a self-respecting, classy, dignified woman. It shows that you are desperate for attention, desperate for approval, or simply a woman of loose morals. You don’t have to dress like a nun, but there are ways to look sexy and appealing while still leaving something to the imagination.

Don’t beg, for anything, ever. This might seem like a no brainer; I’m sure you  don’t go around asking for money for example. But there are some ways we portray ourselves as looking desperate sometimes. This mostly happens during breakups, when we are attached to someone. I know I’ve done my share of crying, begging, pleading..NO, NO, NO. Do NOT do that. NEVER beg someone to stay with you, EVER. I’ve written about this

And don’t beg for attention either. We all know when we’re doing it – causing a fight with someone just to be talked about in our social circles, posting a sexy picture on Instagram, making up excuses to talk to that certain guy, pretending to be sick so we can get love and attention, talking loudly or too much, over exposing our life’s story, bragging…do NOT. A dignified person NEVER has to prove their worth to anyone or chase after anyone’s affection or approval. Does a queen go around screaming that she’s a queen?

Remain calm in the face of a storm. You see that woman up there? That woman’s HUSBAND WAS SHOT RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER. Did she start screaming and throw herself on the ground? She displayed incredible strength and dignity in the face of adversity, and that’s what you have to do as well. Don’t roll your eyes at me! You weren’t born to be comfortable! You were born to grow. Keep calm in difficult situations, like traffic, fights, etc. Take deep breaths, speak calmly, think things through and don’t get physical or dramatic.

Posture!

Mind your word worth

That’s all for now 🙂 What did you think of this article? How can a person become more dignified? Who are your personal dignity role models? Please leave a comment and let me know!

 

 

 

What Is Your Word Worth? Part 1

I first came across this phrase on this amazing website, which I highly, HIGHLY recommend. And no, I’m not advertising, she doesn’t even know I or this website exist, but she is GOALS ❤

What do you say regularly? What topics of conversation do you bring up or participate actively in? I don’t think many of us consider what we say on a daily basis, but just like many other aspects of our being, what we say reveals who we are.

Do you lie? Whenever you speak and it’s a lie, consider that you might as well have said nothing at all. Tell the truth as much as you possibly can. No one can tell the truth all the time, but you can 99% of the time. It makes your life easier. You don’t have to remember what you said. You don’t have to worry about being exposed. And telling the truth, paints a clear picture that everything else can line up with accordingly. Lying about who you are, for example, or what you like, will NEVER bring into your life the friends that you want, need and deserve. Being honest eliminates so much stress and worry in your life. And it sets you apart. Lying has become so common today, from small lies to big ones. By being honest, about everything, you will be noticed for a good reason. People will trust you. You will gain more when people trust you, business wise and personally. Your friends will not have any guard up around you, you can develop stronger and deeper friendships. If you own a business, the trust you establish with your customers will keep them coming back, because they know their resources are safe with you. When you are being honest, your words are worth gold. When you lie, they are worth dust.

Second up, swearing. When a person uses foul language, they’re not being modern, they’re not being ‘frank’ or ‘honest’. They are just showing their limited vocabulary and lack of self control, especially if they use foul language when they are angry (guilty!). They are also demonstrating their lack of respect, such as when a woman refers to another woman as a sl*t. Please please please please, try and eliminate swearing from your vocabulary. The English language, as well as pretty much every other language, has a wide range of alternatives for you to use rather than the handful of tacky vulgar ones. Try making a vow not to swear for a day, and come up with a reward for yourself, and a punishment if you break your vow. Remember what you are presenting yourself as the next time you are compelled to say a bad word.

Thoughts?

 

 

 

 

Sit Like A Queen

Do you want a way to instantly:

• look taller?
• look slimmer?
• look more confident?
• look more elegant?
• portray grace?
• feel more confident?
• feel more elegant?
• feel more graceful?
• impresss?

Then sit…up! We tend to do a lot of sitting, sitting at work, sitting on public transport, sitting watching TV, and most of us tend to slouch while we sit. This doesn’t do anything for you, it might feel easier when you’re tired, but it just hurts your spine and lower back, makes you appear overweight and just sends a message that you don’t care about yourself…nothing anyone would WANT to portray.

So, let’s do a run down shall we?

Head up, shoulders rolled back, sit up (ideally, your back shouldn’t touch the back of the chair, but we are only human). Knees together, some of us have chunkier thighs than others, so don’t fret if you can’t get them completely together but just, as together as you can. Your knees are married! Bound for life! As for heels, crossed. I prefer keeping my right leg as normal with my left heel curled around my right heel, before then sliding my right leg a bit more to the right – so basically, my heels are crossed and my legs a bit towards the side.

Try it now. How does it feel? Yes, yes, I know, it’s hurting your back, you will get used to it. Don’t you feel a bit better though?

If sitting with good posture hurts you, it means your core muscles aren’t up to par, and this can be solved through exercise, especially core (ab/back) exercises. And don’t expect yourself to be sitting like this all day everyday right away. Try it for ten minutes for a week, then twenty, then half an hour..or, what I do, pick the times you think you need to look your best, maybe at a special occasion or the first few hours at work, and try to maintain your posture during those times.

Remember you are a lady! You are a goddess, a queen, a princess, an awesome human being, and you should sit, speak, walk and talk like the badass that you really are!

I hope this article helped you! Please give me feedback! 🙂

 

Careful Selection

Are you an extremely busy person? Do you have absolutely no free time at all? Or not as much as you would like? Is your schedule chock full of meetings, appointments, social engagements, training and so on? How many of those things do you really want to do?

Often, a cause of having a ‘lot on your plate’ is merely lack of careful selection. If you’re strapped for time, it is highly advisable to take a close look at your life and see what can be weeded out. What do you really need and want in your life? What can be eliminated?

You’re going to die someday. Your life is very precious, every minute of it. If you’re not spending it doing something you love doing/something you need to do/something that gives back to the world, you’re wasting it. Do you want to waste your precious, finite lifetime doing things that are not true to you?

If you’re working, a huge chunk of your day is going to be spent at your place of work, and there’s probably not much you can do about that. Are you doing some form of physical activity, like a sport or a yoga class? If you are, that’s fantastic, and should be a part of your schedule, but are you doing more than one? Do you, for instance, really need to do swimming, hockey and football? Can you pick one or two and stick to them regularly? What about the clubs you’re a member of? Are you really passionate about those causes or are you just doing it because your friends are members of them? If you’re passionate about them, keep them, if not, dump them. But don’t dump the charity ones, we need people like you!! 😉 Are there a few friends you’re spending too much time with? You don’t have to hang out with your friends every single weekend, that’s time you could be using to relax and unwind. Unless it makes you happy, of course. You get the point.

Look at a typical week and try to weed out dead, pointless time as much as possible. Pick one of everything, just one, one club, one sport, etc, and stick to it. You don’t need to spread yourself out everywhere. If you feel like you just really need the world to stop so you can catch up on your numerous commitments, CUT DOWN! You will be happier doing things that you really are interested in, and you will be less stressed and hurried.

 

Your Life > That Idiot

It could be the aunt who keeps making snide comments about you. It could be the guy who never seems to find you enough. It could be the girl who gives you the cold shoulder for absolutely no reason at all.

And their actions and words hurt. You keep trying to tell yourself it doesn’t matter, but deep down, it does. You don’t have to fight it, but I’m here to let you know there are things in your life more important than them or their opinions.

Your health is more important than they are. Have you exercised today? Have you had your fruits and vegetables? Have you drunk enough water? The number of glasses of water you drank is more important than the fact that that blind loser didn’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated.  Your grades are more important than they are. If you’re in school/college, have you studied today? Did you participate in class? That’s more important than the relative who keeps ‘pitying’ you because of your weight, or anything else.  Your happiness is more important than they are. Your pet is more important than they are. The elections in your country are more important than they are. I mean, the political situation in your country affects you directly…not them! Your interests and passions are more important than they are. Whatever you do that makes you happy, whether it’s reading, skateboarding, watching documentaries about penguins, that is important, that is life and that is worth your attention and focus. Not a person who willingly and intentionally tries to hurt you. Got that?