What Is Your Word Worth? Part 2

How often do you:

• talk about yourself without being asked?
• gossip about celebrities?
• gossip about people?
• make lewd/sexual jokes?
• talk about books?
• talk about culture/arts?
• talk about current events?
• talk about music?
• talk about history?
• talk about religion/spirituality?

I’m sure you are discerning and classy enough to know which of those answers should have been a no 😛

Talking about yourself without being asked is a big no-no. I do this a lot, and it’s such a hard habit to curb, because I feel like when I’m talking to someone, especially someone I’m close to, I absolutely have to tell them everything. Most of the time it’s out of excitement, generally I just like sharing. All this portrays is that the person talking about themselves is self-centered and ill mannered. Do not talk about yourself unless asked. Listen to the other person. Take an interest in them. Ask them how they are, how their day was, and build on their responses, just let them talk about themselves. If they don’t ask about you, they never wanted to know anyway and you would just have made a fool of yourself talking 😛 Unless of course it’s an exciting announcement! And when it comes to confiding in people about the personal stuff, this is super sensitive. Your love life, family life, insecurities etc should not be dumped on just any random person (I do this all the time and it always feels awful). Light-hearted chatter with everyone, but when it comes to personal stuff, be highly selective. A high-value woman does not just share her secrets with any person willing to listen. It just destroys the mystery and lowers your value, because people know you don’t respect yourself enough and you’re willing to sell your secrets for some attention or love. The same goes for posting passive-aggressive material on social media. Classy people don’t do that!

And as for gossip, most girls love gossip and we all enjoy a little spice and rumor. It’s even a bonding mechanism between females. However, when taken to extremes, it makes the person look like their own life is not exciting or satisfying enough and they are superficial and shallow, the only topic that interests them is who Kelly was seen with the other night. Keep it to a minimum and avoid spreading harmful rumors, try to be more of a listener instead.

So with all this about what NOT to talk about, what CAN you talk about? You can talk about current events. You can talk politics so long as you are gentle and avoid arguments. You can talk about documentaries you watched, interesting and value-adding articles you read, you can talk about interests (NO BRAGGING!)..but to be a good conversationalist, try to tailor your conversation to the other person’s interest without compromising on your principles. For example, you might be into astronomy and eagerly blabbing on about how Pluto should have been a planet (work with me here) but the other person is more of a business-oriented mind. Try and find common ground.

I hope you liked this article! Please leave a comment to let me know your thoughts on word worth!

 

 

What Is Your Word Worth? Part 1

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What do you say regularly? What topics of conversation do you bring up or participate actively in? I don’t think many of us consider what we say on a daily basis, but just like many other aspects of our being, what we say reveals who we are.

Do you lie? Whenever you speak and it’s a lie, consider that you might as well have said nothing at all. Tell the truth as much as you possibly can. No one can tell the truth all the time, but you can 99% of the time. It makes your life easier. You don’t have to remember what you said. You don’t have to worry about being exposed. And telling the truth, paints a clear picture that everything else can line up with accordingly. Lying about who you are, for example, or what you like, will NEVER bring into your life the friends that you want, need and deserve. Being honest eliminates so much stress and worry in your life. And it sets you apart. Lying has become so common today, from small lies to big ones. By being honest, about everything, you will be noticed for a good reason. People will trust you. You will gain more when people trust you, business wise and personally. Your friends will not have any guard up around you, you can develop stronger and deeper friendships. If you own a business, the trust you establish with your customers will keep them coming back, because they know their resources are safe with you. When you are being honest, your words are worth gold. When you lie, they are worth dust.

Second up, swearing. When a person uses foul language, they’re not being modern, they’re not being ‘frank’ or ‘honest’. They are just showing their limited vocabulary and lack of self control, especially if they use foul language when they are angry (guilty!). They are also demonstrating their lack of respect, such as when a woman refers to another woman as a sl*t. Please please please please, try and eliminate swearing from your vocabulary. The English language, as well as pretty much every other language, has a wide range of alternatives for you to use rather than the handful of tacky vulgar ones. Try making a vow not to swear for a day, and come up with a reward for yourself, and a punishment if you break your vow. Remember what you are presenting yourself as the next time you are compelled to say a bad word.

Thoughts?